We will forever use our memories of his smile, his sense of humor, his
humilty and generosity, and his big-heart as an inspiration to make our lives,
and the lives around us more complete and whole.

February 7, 1985 - July 21, 2009


Monday, November 30, 2009

Tigers Present Family with #31 "Elrod" jersey

On November 12, 2009, Stephen's family was presented with a framed #31 jersey on the evening of the first home game of the 2009 season. It was a fitting evening for the presentation; Coach Osborne coached and won his 400th game the same evening. The following is the script that was read during the tribute to Stephen.

"Stephen Dale Elrod, a four-year member of the Tiger Men’s Basketball Team and 2007 graduate of Georgetown College, was killed in a tragic vehicle accident in July. Since then he has been remembered in many ways throughout our campus community. Tonight, we honor his memory by giving his parents, Rick and Judy Elrod, and brother, Jon, a framed jersey of his number, No. 31. The Tiger team also honors Stephen each game, wearing “Rod” on the front of each of their jerseys and rubbing a No. 31 jersey in their locker room before heading to the court...

A permanent honor on our campus is planned to be unveiled next year when the area between the George H.W. Bush Fitness Center and Alumni Gymnasium will be named the Stephen D. Elrod Plaza. A sculpture depicting his characteristics and personality will be erected with benches surrounding as a touching tribute to his life.

Stephen was one of the finest kids I have ever been associated with. He was smart, kind, polite, and funny! It looked like he was always having a good day. He lit up the room when he walked in, remembers professor, Jack Birdwhistell.

Coach Happy Osborne has been close to this family since he was an assistant under then Coach Reid and says that as a family, he doesn’t know how you can be any more Georgetown than the Elrods. Happy says that while Rick and Judy been very successful in their time at Georgetown and in life, the most success for them has been as parents because there are no two finer young men than Stephen and Jon Elrod.

Coach Osborne considers Stephen Elrod as the perfect example of a student-athlete. His smile lit up our campus and every gym he visited. Most of all, Stephen lived the example of Christ in that he gave everything for everyone else. Most of all, he was an example to all of us because he saw the good in every one.

Dr. Zahi Haddad, professor of business administration remembers Stephen in the classroom and says, “Stephen Elrod was beloved by all his friends and faculty members. He gained my at most admiration and respect as a student and an athlete. He was a true scholar who had high expectation of himself and expected others to do as well. He had a great personality that gained him the friendship and respect of all who knew him. He developed an excellent understanding of life complexities which made him a person of good judgment. I frequently relied on his judgment on the investment team. He always researched hidden corporate treasures and shared their values with his team. His judgment had always proved to be profitable to the team. He was a great leader. I will always miss him and have a warm spot for Stephen in my heart.

Mark Surgalski, who was a four-year teammate and roommate of Stephen says that Stephen is in the top three most influential people in his life – “He made me a better friend to my friends, made me a better person in this world and the thing I thank him most for is that he made me a better husband to my wife.”

Stephen Elrod was a professor’s dream student says Nancy Lumpkin, another one of Stephen’s favorite teachers. Professor Lumpkin notes that he never shied away from the tough courses, was game for any new challenges, and was always so pleasant to be around. I very much valued the attitude and spirit this fine young man brought to my classes and to the Georgetown College Investment Team. Stephen was a business major with an emphasis in management…but he kept showing up in my finance courses…this was a little unusual for me to see because normally, if a student gets through Lumpkin’s Managerial class, he does not usually look back again…but Stephen did. Elrod—cause that is what we all called him—appeared in my Investments class…the first day I asked him if he was in the correct room. The other students teased him a bit because he had apparently chosen a Lumpkin class of his own free will! I will never forget it…Steven smiled, pulled his baseball cap a little lower, down over his reddened face, and replied, “yes Ma’am, I really want to learn about investments.”

That statement on day one changed the entire demeanor of the class for the semester. Stephen’s leadership in the classroom—his willingness to express interest and excitement over academic content—helped open everyone to that learning opportunity. We had such a fun semester together and I will never forget it.

Stephen’s jersey will forever hang in the Georgetown locker room and his contributions to Georgetown Basketball and our campus will never be forgotten. Fitting tributes for a special young man…Stephen D. Elrod.

And now our Tiger captains, team and staff proudly present the framed jersey to Rick, Judy and Jon."

Sunday, October 25, 2009

There Must be Death in Order to Continue Life

Not many young adults think about dying, much less about donating their organs. Stephen was a unique individual. One day he made a special trip on his lunch hour into the Circuit Clerk's office to add his name to the donor list. He was told that he was young and had a long time before he needed to think about that. His response back was that he had a personal relationship with Jesus and if anything ever happened to him, he didn't want there to be any question as to his wishes. He had already renewed his license previously; therefore, his name was added to the donor list but the back of his license remained unchecked.

Stephen usually placed his wallet in the center console of his vehicle. He was uncomfortable driving with it in his back pocket. After the accident, had it been in his pocket, the doctors would have assumed he was not an organ donor since his license was unchecked. However, since we didn't have access to the license, they called the state department, researched the donor list and found his name.

Because of Stephen's decision to help others at his death, the following individuals had an opportunity to continue their life.

Stephen's liver recipient is a 60 year old man from Ohio. He suffered from a chronic progressive disease which caused acute liver failure. He was second on the waiting list and was extremely ill at the time of his transplant. Stephen saved his life. When he is feeling well enough, he works at Goodyear Tire. He is the married father of two children. In his free time, he especially enjoys outdoor activities. He is currently doing well and is working on regaining his full strength from home.

Stephen's left kidney went to a 17 year old girl from Ohio. She had a genetic disorder of unknown origin that slowly caused her kidneys to shut down. She had been receiving frequent dialysis treatments for two years before her transplant. Her family consists of eight siblings and she is very fond of puppets, Sponge Bob and watching TV. After her surgery, she experienced no complications and she is currently doing excellent.

The recipient of Stephen's right kidney is a 17 year old boy from Kentucky. He had the same genetic condition as the girl who received his left kidney. Stephen relieved this young man of over four year of dialysis treatments. He had waited for this gift for one and a half years. He has two siblings and his favorite thing to do is participate on his school's wrestling team.

The heart valves should be transplanted once tests are completed, matches are established, and the recipients are ready.

Due to injuries sustained in the accident, Stephen was unable to donate his pancreas and his skin.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Stephen's Memory Garden

We received over 100 floral arrangements and items suitable for a garden. We decided to take some of the shrubs and flowers and arrange them into a memory garden right off the back porch. Smith and Jolly came out the next day, planted everything for us and placed the angels, stepping stones, and benches to make a beautiful garden site. Stephen had given me a crepe myrtle for my birthday a couple years ago. They transplanted it into the garden also. There is always a gentle breeze here on the ridge and when the wind chimes sound, I imagine Stephen telling us that he is in a beautiful place enjoying the breeze and sounds of nature.



A couple days after the funeral, I began going through the flowers and cleaning off the back porch. I found a turkey feather along the back wall nestled around the flowers. We had never found a single turkey feather near the house. Stephen had his first turkey kill earlier in the spring while hunting on the farm with a good friend, Clay Hamblen. I believe Stephen placed that turkey feather for me to find that morning. It was his way of telling us that he was hunting all the time now and had just gotten him a big one.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Visitation - Plum Creek Christian Church

Visitation services were held at Plum Creek Christian Church in Butler, Ky from 3:00 - 9:00 p.m. on Friday, July 24th.




The funeral director and long time good friend, Mr. John Peoples, recommended closing the casket. After the family had the opportunity to view Stephen, we agreed that it would be best. Some of items brought for display at the church to help show people who Stephen really was were his basketball jerseys from Pendleton County and Georgetown College. The basketball shoes he received as a senior at Georgetown sat nicely beside his Georgetown #31 jersey. They had been worn out from playing in 2 - 3 leagues weekly since graduation. Specific awards were brought to display the hard-working nature of Stephen. He received the Larry Price Hustle Award at Pendleton (the same honor that he shared with his father in 1978 and his brother, Jon, in 2005 and 2006), and the Jim Reid Award at Georgetown. Other plaques included Academic All-Conference, Highest GPA average in Chemistry and Trigonometry.

Some of the most special items displayed were poems and letters written to us when he was small.

Roses are red, violets are blue
You are sweet and I love you,
Would you like a cup of tea,
It's really good for me, and
I just made it for the best Mommy.
~Mothers Day 1995
Roses are red
Violets are Blue
You are sweet
and I love you.

Dear Mommy and Daddy,
I love you so much. I could
take you out to dinner, but
I don't have a car.
Love, Stephen

Dear Mommy,
Thank you for every thing you've done for us.
Thank you for food. Thank you for taking me
down the hill. Thank you for buying me a home. Mommy,
you are a very good cooker. Thank you for
helping me with my homework. Thank you
for loving me too. I love you too.
thank you for toys.
Happy Mother's Day Mommy.
I Love you Mom.
~April 20, 1993


AND THE MOST SPECIAL OF ALL

(Stephen wrote this and folded it like a paper airplane and threw it down the steps one night to us)
Dear Mom or Dad,
I want to accept Jesus as my personal
Lord and Savior, but I'm scared to do it
in Church.
P.S. Can you please help me!!
Love, Stephen Elrod